Khalid adds that, when it comes to marriage, an interfaith relationship is not a problem as long as the person is a Christian or a Jew, according to Islamic theology.Yet more than theological issues, students say that personal feelings influence them to reject the possibility of an interfaith relationship. Manning ’09 also said she could not picture herself in a serious relationship with someone who doesn’t share her faith. It doesn’t seem feasible to me that I would relate to someone on such a deep level if we didn’t have that common ground,” she says.A Jew who married a woman from one of the Canaanite nations would find his wife naturally inclined towards the language, culture, and religion of her childhood.
There is nothing morally wrong with dating or marrying a person of another race.
But the serious cultural and social demands of interracial marriage require clear vision and mature motivation.
In deciding who they want to date, most college students say they do not think about marriage or children.
But the choice to date someone may have unexpected implications—especially if that person does not share your religion, Summer says. Bhaskarabhatla ’09, who is Hindu, says he thinks “a relationship shouldn’t focus on a person’s religious tradition and background but mainly on personal characteristics and compatibility.” His parents would not agree.
“It would be impossible for me to consider spending my life with someone who did not agree with what I spiritually believed in,” says Sarah H. CULTURE, GENDER & (NO) SEXWhen it comes to interfaith relationships, religion often dictates broader differences in opinion beyond strict theology.
Many observant Christian students, for instance, say they do not believe in having sex before marriage.Summer says she disagrees with her boyfriend’s belief that he is responsible for supporting her when she begins law school in the fall and he enters the work force.“I think it’s my financial responsibility,” she says.Summer says that she and her boyfriend have also discussed the potential tension that could arise between fulfilling traditional parental roles and pursuing their career goals.But Gillis says he realizes that, theology aside, the reality of interfaith dating is more complicated.“It’s all in the heart and the intentions,” he says. Skoda ’07, who is also Christian, disagrees that an interfaith relationship might strain a person’s relationship with God.“[An interfaith relationship] might create more dialogue between you and God,” Skoda says.It’s an actual union between two people becoming one,” Madubata says.