“You have to accept that sometimes you aren’t what another person is looking for, and that’s totally fine.”In San Diego, Anna says it seems everyone is on a dating app.
When I was single, online dating was still taboo and there were only a handful of sites out there for the single among us.
I wanted to meet someone organically, and, of course, I convinced myself that the most organic way of meeting someone was to wade through their online persona, so I signed up for
It was exhilarating and terrifying, validating and dispiriting.
And I wasn’t alone in feeling that way.“It’s this weird hybrid of hope and anxiety.
The world is full of cringe-worthy mistakes, missteps, and horror stories.
On the plus side, there are some valuable lessons to be learned from online dating, since sales prospecting is very similar: One person reaches out to the other without knowing them except what they’ve revealed online, and advocates for an agreement that the other might – or might not – accept. The only responses are a generic “I’m good” – or a truthful response about how you didn’t sleep well last night but are having lunch with your co-worker and hope he doesn’t want to eat at that sushi place again…
This has allowed him “to focus on becoming the best person I can be instead of someone simply pining for validation.” Bottom line: It’s OK to press pause on the dating apps. While the validation from online dating is addictive, it’s also fleeting.
Rejection is more common, but Anna says it’s one-dimensional.
“The step of deactivating it is cathartic,” she says.