The problem is, there are many considerations that guys have to make that you need to consider too. Personally, I don’t plan on getting married until I’m ready to start a family.When you can understand why a guy might have reservations to getting married (or at least, might not be motivated to get married), it will help you communicate better and ultimately get you to a place where you may both decide it’s time for marriage. That’s just my personal view and I’m not suggesting or projecting that anyone else should share it.
The topic hasn’t come up again since and at this point, I am just about ready to give him an ultimatum- either he proposes or I’m leaving.
I’m also thinking of just getting him a ring at this point just to move this thing along!
I have seen men destroyed by it (not to say women aren’t too, I guess I’ve just met more divorced men in my work with guys…) In many cases, when a guy gets married, he’s doing it for you.
Most guys don’t care whether or not there’s a legal document that says you’re married.
Also, I think it would be in your best interest to relax and wait for him to propose marriage to you. Aside from him probably feeling insulted by the gesture, can you imagine if he did go for it?
Every time you have an argument he’d think back to how he felt coerced into marriage and pressured by you. If you get impatient, it’s going to block your ability to be empathetic and understanding towards him.I’ve met plenty of women who are in a hurry to get married.And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc. We’ve had our problems but have worked through it all and I really want him to pop the question already.There was a moment when he talked about us being married, but he joked that I should be the one to get him the ring.Most guys have heard enough horror stories to know that tying the knot isn’t going to make a woman any less likely to cheat or leave, so there’s a general attitude that it’s not to our advantage to risk half of our income on the chance that everything works out.