She and Paul married anyway, and over time the difference in maturity dissipated. While I don't think it's important to adhere to an arbitrary formula when considering age in a potential relationship (interestingly, when I met Kevin our age difference was exactly this ratio), I think it can be a good rule of thumb to help you consider if your relationship is appropriate.
(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time.
" While it's fairly common for a woman to marry an older man, the reverse isn't as much of a social norm. Travis and Leah, who have been married close to 20 years, met while attending the same six-week missions organization training.
"Telling our story never gets old," Leah says, smiling.
If he had still been a "college kid," I might have had a hard time feeling like we were equals.
And while the same life stage can seem to erase an age difference, Willy Wooten, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been counseling for over 30 years, encourages couples to think ahead.
The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.
The bigger question was whether or not God was drawing us together. Travis was also tentative when he first developed feelings for Leah.
"I had surpassed him in some areas — I had been in the workforce for 12 years when we met and held leadership positions in church." I had similar concerns when I met Kevin.
From our first conversation, I could tell he was very mature for his age. Once I learned his actual age, I was concerned that he might not be ready to settle down and have a family, when I definitely was.
If you're considering getting serious with someone significantly older or younger than yourself, these are important things to discuss.