Of those who had got together within the past 15 years and were aged 40 or over when they met, four out of ten had met online.‘I keep trying to date men over the internet, but it is often hopeless,’ she says.‘I can’t count the times a guy has seemed really keen to arrange a date, and then, with sometimes only five minutes to go, I get a text saying sorry, he can’t make it.
Older women may also be scuppering their chances by being too picky.
In Cory’s case, she had low expectations of her initial meeting with Kevin because they seemed to have little in common: Kevin is a maths professor, while Cory only scraped maths O-level — and he’d listed ballroom dancing among his interests.
I’ve been told they cry off as they have met someone more suitable.’Some older women may be missing out on the chance of finding love, she thinks, because, bruised and rejected in earlier relationships, they lack the confidence and persistence to keep dating until they find a match.
After scores of dodgy dates, Cory found Kevin Parrott: ‘On our first meeting, he handed me his card,’ she recalls.
‘I always had boyfriends when I was younger and assumed I would again after James was born,’ she says. These chats were fun — and sometimes quite flirty — but if I ever suggested we meet, the men would often back off, saying they were not looking for a relationship.’A dozen or so dates followed over the years, none of them quite right.
When she last registered with an online dating site she was 44 — and few men made contact.
crunched American Community Survey data to see where in the United States men outnumber women and vice versa.
The map below shows their findings for singles ages 45-64, the oldest group researchers analyzed.
‘Forty is a huge cut-off point for a lot of men,’ Ruthie explains.
‘There was just one I met and we had a fantastic evening.
I contacted The Plankton and she said the huge response to her lament proves there are many older women who feel just as she does.