While the broader culture continues to fight over what “sexual morality” means, one thing is certain: Andy Stanley is determined not to sit this one out.
RNS: If these are the new rules for love, sex, and dating, what are some of the old rules that you don’t think work anymore?
The pastor of one America’s largest churches is peeling back the covers on topics that might make some Christians squirm.
Andy Stanley, pastor of the 30,000 member North Point Ministries, addresses a range of issues from human sexuality to pornography in his latest book, The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating.
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You used them in the same sentence, but they are different things.
The natural part of love is the feeling and chemistry part, but the doing part of love is unnatural.
But when that begins to wane, the relationship can go in the same direction. It says that the relational part of the relationship should take precedent over the sexual or physical component of the relationship.
[tweetable]If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, put the relational component ahead of the sexual one.[/tweetable] RNS: How can a history of sexual abuse impact the way these rules function in your life?
AS: I don’t know that they are rules so much as assumptions.
One of the big assumptions I challenge is: As long as I’m in love and the chemistry is right, then everything is going to turn out right.
Our sexuality goes way beyond what is physical, and we see that especially in the realm of sexual abuse.