As a mulatto with a black father and a European Y chromosome (23and Me testing), I'd like to point out that we're not new.
America's whole economy is based on racism and always has been. It's very confusing to grow up around racist white people in denial who gaslight you that racism is over. Can we talk about how gross "interracial" porn is, which is normal to masturbate to? "White men have always liked having sex with black women." Yes, and black dudes love having sex with white women, Asian women, etc. All my black friends in Tokyo date white women, isn't that odd? Lastly, no one I know turns away in disgust when seeing mixed race couples on TV.
Can we talk about "hybrid degeneracy" and how Hitler liked Califirnia's eugenics movement, which is why surprise over the "alt-right" is fake? They live in Japan but choose to chase white women, mostly Russian too. Ever told by an employer that you should only make X amount of money because you're a "gaijin" (foreigner)? Ever get denied a job because you looked too Asian, even though it was an Asian county? Have you ever lived in a country with open and legal institutional racism? What turns them off is the blatant placement of it. It gets even tackier when they jump on board with the newest progressive trends.
“I really feel strongly that it is imperative to help white partners to talk about issues of difference and not just put it on the person of color in the relationship,” Jamali reflects.
“The mixed race or person who identifies as a POC can feel a push and pull—on one hand wanting to say ‘Talk to me about this, honor the different ways that I’ve navigated my identity’ and at the same time having a real fine line of ‘Don’t talk about me, don’t tokenize me, don’t focus too much on it.
And with interracial marriages also on the rise, demographers expect this rapid growth to continue, if not quicken, in the decades to come." This is why the work of therapists like Alexandra Jamali is so important.
Psychological theories and the treatment options that arise from these theories have largely been founded on monoracial principles.
The person of color often faces real (or internalized) accusations of betraying one’s people, selling out, or serving as an object of fantasy.
But rarely, if ever, do we hear about the experiences that biracial individuals face when diving into the dating world.
The romantic stories of people who don’t quite identify with the black and white binary that dominates the American narrative often go unrepresented.
This is why I was eager to sit down with Alexandra P.
See me in my entirety.’ I think that those dynamics are really present in mixed race relationships where one partner is White and the other is not.