Sure, she had pushed for more intimacy, but I didn't have to acquiesce.
I told her that in fact I had just shared my emotional truth with her, and that my feelings are my absolute truth.
Then she tried to convince me that my feelings weren't valid.
After a half-dozen dates, I began noticing the cracks in our relationship, and some were too big to paint over.
I felt foolish for having gone off to the races so quickly.
I was anxious in part because a few weeks just aren't enough for me to feel trusting.
But trying to go slow in a dating world that operates at supersonic speed is difficult, because it's really easy to get caught up in the partnering race.
Rushing into a relationship often comes out of a low or volatile self-esteem, which is then exacerbated by the relationship. Seth Meyers tells e Harmony: "Simply put, people who feel good about and proud of the overall package they are don’t feel the need to rush because they don’t have emotional holes they’re looking to fill." So it's good to keep an eye out on how the relationship is progressing, as it can be a sign whether or not you're getting involved for the right reasons and ensure that you're not getting into a relationship that's going to damage your self-esteem in the long run.
I've met some fascinating and accomplished women, and I'm becoming more comfortable around the dating process.
Skipping the courting phase is a huge mistake for me, because courting is the only way I know how to fall in love. Fortuitously, our first big disagreement became our last, because it pointed to a bleak future in terms of resolving problems.