He needed online dating only to “work once,” he says, and it did.
Tao Liu, a doctorate student in counseling psychology at Indiana University, has measured how Asian American men experience gendered racism.
[My boyfriend was intimidated by my sexual history.
Compared with black, white and Latino men, Asian men receive fewer matches and messages from women on the dating site.
That’s not to say online dating can’t work for Asian men.
Alan Montecillo logged on to Ok Cupid and started filling out his profile.
He wrote down his height (6 feet), listed his interests (podcasts, basketball, reading) and included photos of himself outdoors.
“It makes it seem like there’s a dialogue going on from the very beginning,” he said.
“Dialogue rather than just messaging.” At first, Maltempo’s wife, Xue Jiang, was unimpressed by his messages.
“I feel like I’ve grown into being more socially outgoing and talkative, but I wasn’t always that way,” he said.
“I think there was a long time where I felt ashamed, ashamed or self-conscious, or attributing me being single to the fact that I don’t have these qualities and I need to have these qualities in order to attract people.
But when Montecillo reached the section that asked for his ethnicity, he hesitated.