The smallness of the city's queer community compelled her to go online just to find people to date.
Finding that special needle in the haystack does seem somewhat easier online.
For one, it is nice to know who else is on the market -- a somewhat awkward question in real life.
Another 2013 study, albeit one commissioned by e Harmony, claimed a third of its respondents met their spouses online.
What's more, among the sample's 19,131 married Americans, those who had met online were slightly more satisfied in their marriages and less likely to divorce than couples that met the "organic" way. "Online dating fundamentally changes the initiation part of relationships; it changes how we identify potential partners," says Catalina Toma, an assistant professor in the communication arts department at the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
As the online market grows, success stories are accumulating.
In the Pew poll, nearly a quarter of online daters found their spouse or long-term partner through a site.I was 32 and single in a city of only a quarter million, with only a fraction of those available to me.The comedy of this online encounter competed with my despair.(Perhaps this lingering stigma is why most of my interviewees opted to hide behind a pseudonym.) "It no longer feels like a movement of desperation," says Ann, 40, who has dated online on and off for the past 10 years.Not only has it allowed her to break out of her largely paired-up and insular social circle, it has also given her a sense of control over the uncontrollable.We tend to pair up with people inside the bounds of our everyday: through work, school, friends, etc.