Uncomfortable with showing your face on camera as you strip down?
To enhance your partnered Skype sex, utilize some of that alone time to explore and discover your kinks.
Singh suggests having each partner write down a list of their fantasies. Watch some porn or read erotica and take note of what gets your blood flowing. Communication becomes even more crucial when in a long-distance relationship, and as Singh says, that includes your dirty talk. “A lot of people don’t even vocalize what turns them on," Singh says.
If you're experiencing repeated video connection issues, Singh suggests opting for simple Skype chat rather than video, since it requires less bandwidth (and can be just as erotic).
Also, if you're nervous about having your face on camera during dirty talk, you may feel more comfortable with sending text messages anyway. Are you in a long-distance relationship with someone who perhaps misses penetrative sex?
With the We Connect app, if a partner with a vagina is wearing the toy, their lover can control the vibrations from their smart phone using the app, no matter how far away they are. After you've revealed your fantasies to one another, it's time to act them out.
But if that's too complicated, any sex toy enjoyed by couples during in-person sex can also be added to Skype sex with a little boldness and imagination. Perhaps your apartment is dirty, and your partner enjoys the French Maid role-playing scenario. For instance, try setting up your computer, phone, or tablet in your bathroom so your partner can watch you take a candle-lit bath.
Try something like this: "I watched some porn where they used dildos, and there was a lot of dirty talk, so I thought we could try sex toys and some more sexy talk if you're down."Inject a little humor. Accidental farts, a flushed face that accompanies telling your partner you'd like to wear an animal tail butt plug, or actual animals (like your cat or dog) jumping onto the bed mid-orgasm. To embrace awkward moments and help ease the nervousness of sharing fantasies, Singh suggests adding a little humor to your streaming routine.
(She says she once used a line from during Skype sex with a gamer partner, and he totally came.)Adding humor to your Skype sex can mean everything from surprising your partner with a themed costume to adding fun, thoughtful elements (like a pre-planned cheerleading routine) to an otherwise super sexy role-play scenario.
Mute yourself to let your partner focus on what's happening on the screen, or deprive your partner of a visual by covering your camera with a sticky note (or your underwear) so that they can focus on the sensual sounds you make. "The sexiest organ is the mind," says clinical psychologist and relationship expert Barbara Greenberg, Ph D.