I know he has remained close to a few of his ex’s which doesn’t concern me at all (he has the right to be friends with anyone) but the most recent ex is still extremely needy.
She sends him nasty texts saying he is forgetting his friends if he hasn’t seen her for a while, posts catty comments on his facebook page, yet he still won’t cut her off.
Everything we read online suggested that he should stop jerking off so that he can adjust to getting off when we have sex, but he doesn't want to stop. In order to get him on board, you’d basically be telling him that you need him to enjoy himself in a way that pleases you—and that’s a hard ask.
He says he doesn't care if he can't finish when we have sex and that it's not a big deal to him, but it's a big deal to me. It makes me feel like I'm really bad at it and that there's a loss of intimacy when we have sex because I can't get him off. First, it sounds like you’ve handled this really well so far. Not to mention: It’s hard to come a certain way, just because your partner wants you to.
He says it is easier to remain friends with her than not to, but I personally won’t surround myself with people who are so toxic.
He lent her a sum of money in the past which I think she still hasn’t paid back which could be a factor.
As I change and learn about myself, however, I think I don’t want either; even though I am young my stance is pretty strong now.
I’m afraid that this will make it harder to find long term relationships now or in the future.
Eventually he stopped after a few months of us arguing because it was clear that I was upset about it. It seems to me like he wishes he was still with her and I can’t seem to shake this feeling. I have recurring flying dreams but that doesn’t mean I’m going to sprout wings.
I understand why this would bother you: It must have freaked you out to hear him say “I love you” to his ex. A good friend of a friend used to dream-talk to a talking cactus.
" — a text you probably got, like, four times this morning already. If someone does one thing to piss you off, that's it, they're canceled. How You'll Meet Your Soul Mate: They've been in love with you forever, and one night, you stay up late having an extremely tight and incredibly woke conversation, and it hits you that this is probably your soul mate (at least till they double-text you and piss you off).