When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.
I haven’t said one word about it since but I am wondering how long to wait.
They like having women contacting them…even if they are rejecting all of them as it makes them feel desirable.
Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.
It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.
Once you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, I recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period.
Try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him.
What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.
Addressing the Active Profile Issue with Tact First off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.
If you have agreed to be exclusive, things are easy: you just need to ask him to take it down!