The main problem in a lot of relationships is women don’t know what men want.While the differences may seem vast, they’re pretty simple when you break it down.Let’s also take as a given the fact that being a trans woman who is outspoken and only sometimes passes is pretty much never easy thing.
For instance, saying something like: “Thank you for doing the dishes, that was so thoughtful of you” packs more punch than something general like “You’re so thoughtful.” This can be an area of confusion since women are thrilled with general compliments (you’re so smart/pretty/nice/funny/etc.) While the principles I’ve outlined may seem fairly straightforward and universally understood, they often get completely ignored.
The biggest mistake most women make in relationships is assuming men think just like they do.
And while this discrimination and hatred is mainly leveled toward girls like me, I know that some of it is reflected onto you as well.
Another part is that trans feminists like myself believe that any discussion of transmisogyny must center around trans women ourselves.
There are many differences between men and women, both in the way we’re designed physically and the way we process things emotionally.
And I’m sure you’ve noticed that the way we view relationships is also very different.
Rather, men like to feel acknowledged, respected, and appreciated.
Men typically enjoy the role of being givers, so for a man, the ideal woman is one who can happily receive.
And the key to a successful relationship is communicating your needs in a way that the other person can it.
If you attack or blame, your guy will completely shut down and tune you out.
If you come from a place of compassion and appreciation, he will tune in to exactly what you’re saying and will try to do whatever he can to make you happy.