All anyone really wants is to feel OK, and most of us don’t.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked.
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You begin interacting with the thoughts in your head rather than with the person in front of you.
It changes your vibe and your energy and guys feel this.
At this point, instead of him feeling like he’s connecting with you, he feels like you’re trying to get something out of him.
This inevitably impacts your vibe, you become a parasite of sorts and everyone you come into contact with is simply a means to an end.
When you meet a guy who makes you feel OK, your need for that feeling becomes overwhelming and you latch on forcefully.
What makes it so destructive is that it’s not an overwhelming, gripping fear; it’s a vague feeling of unease.
It’s so quiet and subtle you may not even realize it’s there.
When asked, many guys will say they don’t know why they were suddenly turned off … During the first few dates with a new guy, your vibe is typically pretty laid-back and easygoing.