She’s practical and doesn’t sweat the small stuff If there’s one thing dating a single mom teaches you, it’s that they are the definition of capable.
It doesn’t have to be forever, but if you couple-up right away, you miss out on so many opportunities for personal growth, new adventure, learning so much about yourself, others around you, and what your next relationship might be.
2017 estimates say that single mothers lead around 7.76% of all American households,¹ meaning that there are literally millions of single moms across America.
I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely.
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
No work, no kids, no dates, just Netflix and a bath (or, let’s be honest, some actual sleep! When you’re dating a single mom you can’t just whisk her away for a romantic weekend: not when she has to organize a babysitter, emergency numbers, and replacement routines.
Even when you do plan something like a date night in advance, there’s always a chance a single mom may have to call it off to deal with a sick kid or cancelled sitter.Therefore, if she lets you into her life, be proud! When you think of a single mom on the dating scene, visions of a 20-something who can barely balance her own checkbook (guilty) probably don’t come to mind.Or maybe you both sleep late then queue for brunch somewhere trendy, because you know that love means buying a girl overpriced avocado toast. When kids are in the picture, late nights and sleep-ins are probably no longer on the cards. You just need to rethink what you consider to be romance. Deal with it Want to be a part of a single mom’s life?That mimosa-laden brunch becomes a rowdy morning at IHOP, HBO for two becomes family shows with the kids. You may just find that sitting through yet another episode of earns you bigger heart eyes than the avocado toast ever did. Then you’re going to have to deal with the fact that her ex may very likely still be around.Especially the people you want to attract, aka awesome men. That personality is always rife with desperation, bad decisions and alienating others who love her best. Even if you are not prone to dramatics of partnering up ASAP, you may feel like a loser because you are not in a relationship.