In the process, you sometimes don’t listen carefully to what the other person is saying (or not saying) about themselves.
What people do to earn a living tells you a lot about them.
It can clue you in on what they’ve studied (or not studied), what they find interesting (or whether they’re trapped in a dead-end job they loathe), and what they spend a good chunk of every day doing and thinking about.
Literally millions of people (including me) who first met online are now married, and psychologists are starting to examine these relationships. One independent study surveyed almost 20,000 Americans who met their spouse online.
If you meet online does that tend to make you more or less compatible? Those of us who met their partners online will find the results encouraging. In fact, people who met online were slightly less likely to divorce and scored slightly higher on marital satisfaction.” (Bohannon, 2013, Online marriage is a happy marriage). scientific support for what many of us have known for years – meeting someone online can work.
You tell your best stories and try hard to be interesting.
You spend a lot of time and energy wondering what the other person thinks of you.
Finally, most of us are not as careful when we meet someone online as we would be if we had met them in a coffee shop.
We share more details about ourselves, more quickly.
Remember that the aim of online dating is to find someone who suits you, not just to find someone. When it comes to online dating (and dating in general, really) there are no surefire tips to make things work.
Finally, you really need to ask good questions and listen carefully to the answers. But when it comes to building good relationships there are a handful of core skills that really help–things like asking good questions, listening carefully, and learning how to manage differences and disagreements constructively instead of destructively.
This dynamic can happen during the early stages of any romantic relationship, but when you meet online you have to navigate additional pitfalls, as well.