We bring our love for out-of-context scripture and applied-only-when-convenient principles into the mix, making for an entirely unique brand of utter ridiculousness. You don’t have to think, because we’re here to do it for you.
Since you’re reading this on the internet, it’s probably true and should be shared repeatedly on your Facebook wall (actually you really should go ahead and share this right now… Identifying myth from fact can be difficult, and that’s why we’ve gone ahead and done all the heavy lifting for you.
The same “experts” who tell you not to pursue a man will also help you build a custom-designed cage to trap him in. Never talk about marriage on the first seven dates. A man who truly loves you for who you are will also want the absolute best for you, which means growth. But that’s a lifelong journey you embrace together as a team of trusting, loving partners.
I’m not recommending that you have no minimum requirements for dating. This is the inescapable, platonic box to which a girl supposedly designates any good guy who actually cares about her. This can go both ways, but it seems most prevalent for guys.
I’m simply pointing out that the whole purpose of dating is to get to know someone which implies you didn’t know him/her on that level beforehand. Here’s the problem, ladies and gentlemen: The friendzone is a lie. If you want to be taken seriously as a date, take yourself seriously as a man.
(Before I rile up too much teen spirit, let’s start with Prov and Prov . In our celebrity-loving Christian culture, anyone with a success story is ready to create a new theology or teaching to sell to the Body of Christ. What worked or failed for them won’t always give you the same results.
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Exposing a man to continual visual stimulation is like hanging a noose around the neck of his spiritual life! Time after time after time after time I hear it: And on and on and on and on and on… It doesn’t mean they aren’t amazing in a lot of other areas or wouldn’t be good husband material. If dating hinders your relationship with God, why would you ever date… If you’re focusing on Jesus in this season, who are you focusing on during all the other seasons?
” I don’t know about you, but I’m spotting some major continuity problems between steps 2 and 3, not to mention 3 and 4. Why don’t all the men just grow up, and then we can start having some teaching for adults. this topic is like the Holy Grail of single women conversation. I think guys SHOULD make the first move, but what should or shouldn’t happen really isn’t going to matter to you when you’re browsing Christian Mingle on your 36th birthday. If most of the Christian guys you’re interested in had it fully together, we probably wouldn’t be having this conversation. It simply means they are lacking in awareness, confidence, or most commonly, know-what-they-want-edness. I’m not saying you should or shouldn’t pursue a guy. If you get married at age 25, you’ll spend at least two thirds of your life in a relationship.
If you use the phrase, “Don’t marry her for her potential,” in a discussion, it’s considered pro-level wisdom. You’re marrying him because his unflinching honesty thus far suggests a lifetime of honesty and vulnerability in your relationship. A good choice today doesn’t solidify a good choice tomorrow. Women have a tendency to date “fixer uppers” in order to feel needed.
You’re marrying her because her heart posture has the potential to sustain a 60 year marriage. What we really should be focusing on are the qualities that indicate good long-term potential. Guys tend to overlook obvious deficiencies because… But neither of these issues are properly addressed by saying, “Don’t marry for potential.” Even if someone is a master of being single, marriage introduces a fat new batch of troubles (aka “growth opportunities”) to work out. You have an entire life ahead of you, so yes, it’s okay to marry someone for their potential to partner with you in living that life healthily and successfully.
They key to not being a dumb dater on the heartbreak fast track is to keep the level of intimacy in the relationship one step behind the level of trust at all times. We’re mortified of having sex before marriage and terrified of not getting any after. Your sex drive is not a rogue feature of your biology just waiting to destroy your life at the first opportune moment. People who know who they are and are going after what they want tend to be very, very datable.