“So I did what a lot of marginalized people do—I pretended I wasn’t different.” Related: By the time she was ready to be sexually active, Trace was no longer in a wheelchair.But she was using two canes to walk, and still had to contend with bladder and bowel issues.
By 19, she’d fallen into a pattern of only making out with men when she was drunk.
In university, she would panic when someone showed interest in her at a bar.
“Say someone wants to take you home—that is an awkward f-cking conversation,” Dixon says.
“At what point do you let them know that one leg is going to be coming off?
” Dating and sex are complicated under the best of circumstances.
If you’re living with a disability, the obstacles and challenges extend far beyond the “does-he-like-me?
The challenges of dating with a disability don’t begin and end in the bedroom—they start with education, move to dating and accessible spaces and encompass sexual preferences that may change as your disability does.
*** While schools across Canada are still debating what broad information about sex education is appropriate, and when to teach it, specific education about sexual health and disability isn’t even on their radar.
As a swimmer, she’d gotten used to using tampons at an early age.