The subject line of the emails then proves to be an initial filter.This is why I am a great fan of the Dadaist subject line.It’s basically a gently teasing challenge, and sets the tone that you aren’t grovelling for her attention.
Personally, I’ve written things like “Pirates Are Much Cooler Than Ninjas” or “Who Ordered The Large Cheese Pizza, Double Anchovies”; anything that comes to mind.
It helps you to stand out from all the people who title their emails “Hi”, “Ur Hottt” or “I Like You.” Being unique works in your favor here and ups your chances of being deleted unread.
In theory, it is supposed to be a cute and flirty way to tell someone that you’re interested in them, get them to check out your profile and maybe send you a message. They expend time and energy waiting checking her activity dates, wondering if she got that message, if he should send a second one… Approaching women out in the world is like spear-fishing – one at a time.
In reality, it’s seen as a passive-aggressive way of trying to bait someone else into making the first move. At worst, you’ve just sent the wrong message A proper first contact message is convoluted; you want to set certain expectations and convey an attractive image of yourself. It sounds a little cold-blooded and impersonal, but you’re going to want to have a stock first message. Treat approaching women on online dating sites should be like dynamite fishing; you want to toss your messages out there and see what floats to the surface.
Notice the key words here: “fun” and “great conversation”.
You’re a fun person; people enjoy their time in your presence.
Great conversations mean you have something to offer intellectually, not just that you’re angling for the fast lane into her panties.
The Sign Off: “Talk soon,” Obligatory disclaimer: Obviously, there are no sure things in life, and there is no formula that will guarantee a response from every girl online.
have you considered that maybe, just maybe, you’re going about it all wrong?