You do not what to appear as if you are talking the kid up in order to score panty points with his/her momma.
It’s very obvious when we do this and kids read that stuff immediately.
Being a boyfriend who openly bombs on mom in front of the kids or being that guy breaking mom’s heart will forever lock you into asshole mode in their minds and you will never get over it.
It just means there'll be obstacles and roadblocks in addition to the normal stress of dating.
Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.
Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation.
Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially.
Don’t go turning on the young man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him.
Don’t go talking about the girl’s favorite band as if you listen to it, because she probably knows that you don’t and you will look like a fool trying to get in.
Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important.
You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.
So go forth, date, have fun and remember when children are concerned you have to give respect in order to earn respect.
If you are dating a woman with kids, you probably aren’t doing it just for fun. You’ve got to have the talk.”I bring that up because that is a classic case where a single guy began dating a woman with a child, and had so much to learn and go through.
When a man gets older he realizes that the chance of meeting a childless woman thins dramatically and the question of “how” may come to his mind in dealing with a child that isn’t his.