I believe this is true for a couple reasons: Other data, such as a woman's religious or political beliefs, her social class, her family, etc.
Also, I am not saying that this is the only way women fall in love, or the most common.
I recognize that women can experience something closer to "love at first sight." The important thing to recognize is that you cannot expect (much less make) a man gradually fall in love with you in the same way that you might fall in love with a man. Male romantic love is something that either starts early and continues, or else doesn't start at all.
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.
The implications of this are enormous for both sexes in dating, but let me underline the biggest lesson for women: if a man isn't falling for you from an early stage - say, the first month - it isn't going to happen.
Don't wait around for his feelings to "grow" the way yours sometimes do. While this doesn't necessarily mean that he should be ruled out as a potential boyfriend or husband, it does mean that he will never be the woozy, infatuated lover you've seen in the movies.
Despite this, the use and promotion of condoms continue to be targets for controversy and criticism, and sexual abstinence and monogamy are often promoted as superior alternatives.
While condoms offer useful and vital protection, they have also become associated with promiscuity and infidelity.
I speculated that the women writing to me were subject to some kind of wishful thinking or tunnel-vision, by which they focused only on the good in their boyfriend rather than the advantages of other men. A woman couldn't wishfully think herself into a degree of love so strong that she would feel compelled to write me for help.
I eventually realized that these women were being genuine, and I was forced to admit that there was a uniquely feminine mechanism at work.
It amazed me that a woman could end up being so in love with a man that, initially, she wouldn't have seriously considered dating.