“People are tempted to assume that if you have sex with someone else you are less committed.
“There are some people who are perfectly content with monogamy and have satisfying, passionate relationships,” Lehmiller says. But I’m hesitant to say that there’s one kind of relationship that is more natural than another.”The American-focused study — however simple in its construction — also offers fascinating insights about the range of sexual habits.
First, it shows that polyamorous people are across the country, in every state and region and across genders.
acceptance, secrecy, investment size, satisfaction level, commitment level, relationship communication, and sexual frequency).
Measures were compared between perceptions of two concurrent partners within each polyamorous relationship (i.e., primary and secondary partners).
It’s a conclusion that is at once surprising and revolutionary, mostly because polyamory is a practice that’s almost universally stigmatized as “not normal,” and in fact detrimental to the success of a relationship.
But modern society is becoming much more accepting of non-monogamous relationships, says co-author Justin J.
It’s a rare win-win for both polyamorous couples and social scientists like Lehmiller who study non-traditional relationships.
Lehmiller said that studies on polyamory have traditionally suffered from either tiny sample sizes or unreliable answers given the stigmatized nature of polyamorous relationships.
istorically, polyamory has been seen as a surefire sign of a failing relationship: If your partner is sleeping with others, even with your permission, your relationship is fizzling towards its demise.
If you couldn’t satisfy your partner, your relationship was doomed.
That’s not to say that Lehmiller and his colleagues are suggesting polyamory is the cure to the seven-year itch, or that monogamy is an institution that doesn’t work.