It is becoming more and more common for both girls and boys to ask each other out.Sitting on the same side of the booth and touching while engaging in conversation is common in Spain, even on a first date.When the French go to a dinner party, it’s considered polite to bring a bottle of wine or flowers, but not food as that would embarrass the host.
In America, this sort of thing would ring the abort signal, but here this is just something you do.
First dates often include dinner or tapas, drinks and coffee, and the night very well might end at sunup. The man usually pays because he’s too macho to let the girl pay, even though he’s 30 and probably still has his mommy doing his laundry for him.
Instead, German men have a highly sophisticated wooing device: the concentrated look — a gaze which might, but often doesn’t, include a smile.
Most importantly, eye contact should be brief and fleeting.
Unlike the rest of us, who might try to make an instant connection with the opposite sex, Germans tend to do things a little different.
A guy walking up to a girl at a bar and saying “hi” would be much too forward.
Guys will envision a long lost pet to enhance the forlorn and harrowing sense of melancholy.
If the woman is interested, she will walk up to him and drop her drink on the floor.
Later, they may arrange to meet for drinks at a bar, or stroll through a museum where they will say the word oeuvre over and over again until they are asked to leave. Flirting is just as serious in Turkey as it is in Germany, but the method is more direct: If a girl doesn’t know he’s interested, he’s got no shot at her.